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What has asthma taught me

A question on a blog I follow inspired this post. Every experience in our lives, no matter how long lasting, or how fleeting, teaches us something. We don’t always know what the lesson is…or why it’s important…but there is a lesson, just the same. One of the blogs I follow has “Your Turn Tuesday.” Today, she posed the question…”What has asthma (yours or your child’s) taught you?”

I am asthmatic, but, luckily, I fall under the mild to moderate persistent category. I’m sure that there are life lessons that I’ve learned, but really, the only thing I can think of is that I’ve learned the only way to treat a bad flare of mine is antibiotics and prednisone. Even with no sign of infection. It’s no so much a life lesson, as it is a road map to effective treatment. I’m very fortunate that I didn’t have to endure hospital stays and scary episodes of not being able to breathe when I was younger. In fact, we didn’t even know what I had was asthma until I was in high school. We always just thought I had recurrent bronchitis. Then, it was called “atypical coughing asthma” THEN, I found out that “coughing asthma” really isn’t that “atypical” after all.

Between my two daughters, one is moderate to severely asthmatic, with poor control. Her doctor calls her a “brittle asthmatic” because even on controller meds, she is never truly under control. My oldest has reactive airways, only having trouble when she is sick. She also gets pneumonia about once a year. Asthma in my children has taught me quite a bit more that my own asthma.

* I have learned that I am stronger than I think I am. I may feel like I’m going to break…but I always find it in me to take one more step.

*I’ve learned that it’s OK to ask for help. It’s ok to accept help. Even just someone offering a shoulder to cry on, or to be a sounding board can be a lifeline.

*I’ve learned to trust my instincts. If something FEELS wrong, it probably is. If I hadn’t listened to my instincts when A. was a baby, she most likely wouldn’t have survived having RSV.

*I’ve learned that it’s OK to question doctors if you don’t agree with a course of action.

*I’ve learned that it’s OK to FIRE doctors if you don’t agree with a course of action. To me…”more medication” is NOT an answer.

*I’ve learned that children are pretty resilient.

*I’ve learned that I am not in control of this ride. I may not LIKE that I’m not in control, but I’m aware of it.

*I’ve learned that sometimes, it’s OK to change expectations, and that it’s OK to have different expectations for my different children.

I don’t know that I’d have learned these lessons if I didn’t have a chronically ill child. I’m sure I would have lived out my life perfectly OK without learning these lessons…but as I often say…”it is what it is”